Sometimes you feel there’s no rhyme, reason or season for you to stress out, so here’s a quick rundown of little things that may be the culprit.
Let’s take a deep breath and cut to the chase, as we know you aren’t purposely trying to sabotage yourself but aren’t sure what has been getting on your nerves.
Did you laugh today? If you can’t remember the last time you laughed till you cried, you need to step back and think what has changed over the years that you’ve allowed melancholy to set in. Spend time with yourself to reflect or even meet old friends – many memories and reasons to laugh out loud may rush in.
What’s on your playlist: Several studies have spoken about the relaxing benefits of music, and I am sure you agree, study or no study! Everyone has their own preferences but irrespective, your playlist should be able to destress you, whether it has jazz or metal. Make well thought through choices for your playlist.
I’ll do it tomorrow: We sometimes tend to push off chores to the following day, especially when it comes to cleaning, after a long day. Is it worth procrastinating? If you’ve been more stressed out lately even when you’re back home, consider your cleaning habits. It may not be a cure-all for anxiety but can surely release some stress.
Have you given yourself a pat on the back recently? While you may be a great listener or advisor to peers at work and friends back home, we hope you remember the last time you thought you did a great job or looked back at how far you’ve come instead of looking ahead with anxiety. Self-assurance has been found to reduce stress. If you can find value around you, why not pat your back for a job well done or tried.
Rock-a-bye, baby: It’s 3:00 a.m. and you are tempted to watch another episode of your favorite TV series. You give in despite knowing you have a couple of hours before heading to work. Think about how you normally start your day when sleep-deprived. Do you wake up with a smile or frown, and are you attentive enough at work or scuttling to the coffee machine every hour? That’ll tell you why you may be feeling exasperated.
Are you a Yes Man? Once in a while, it’s okay to say “no” instead of piling on more work than you can possibly handle in 24 hours. If you can’t drop your colleague home today because you have a special dinner planned, excuse yourself. If you can’t make it to a party, because you really want to stay in and read a book you just bought, skip it instead of day dreaming at the social event. Don’t be surprised if you feel in control and self-assured, rather than guilty.
A matter of time: If the sheer number of things on your to-do list are overwhelming, think about the time you need to spend on each task. Planning your day and prioritizing the tasks as per time can make you more productive and feel more in control of your life.
Phone weakness: Yes, the urge to check your phone time and again for no reason is a weakness, and takes away a lot of time from the day. This fear of missing out can be dealt with by turning off your mobile phone or computer for a certain amount of time each day. Else, you may end up not being able to concentrate or work or even do justice to a conversation with a friend, which may be frustrating for both.
At the end of the day, you are responsible for making smart choices for the next day. Observe what may be at the root of the stress. Sometimes when you aren’t able to out a finger on it, research shows that it may be possible that you’re thirsty. Drink more water. Also, notice every time you crib or judge. It may offer a temporary high but gradually could be sapping your energy.
Sometimes it makes more sense to get on with the day and forget about the nagging feeling at the back of your head. Take a call and decide how you want to plan your day.